Let Summer Fun Begin!

Let Summer Fun Begin!


Summers growing up on the farm seemed to last forever.  I remember my summer fun at catching fireflies in a jar, riding my bike to the creek, playing on the front porch with my dogs and feeling carefree.  Summer fun for my grandchildren look different in that they live in the city, have less unstructured time outside of childcare, and less time spent in the backyard because of Mom and Dad’s work schedule.

Summer calls to the child in each of us to savor the weather, the pace, the desires and vision of fun and lazy days.  Expectations can crash with reality, however without intentions, planning, and communications taking place so that relationship building and values take center stage for your summer experiences.

It’s June and now is the time to look at your summer calendar and visualize what memories you and your family will be smiling about when September rolls around.  Picture yourself in the middle of happy, smiling faces and connecting with your family.  You can be asking yourself the following three questions for determining what your summer fun could look like, sound like feel like.  Set your vision and intentions now!

If nothing else happens this summer, what is the most essential activity that our family can do that will connect us together?

Connecting family members through fun is one of the best ways to build trust among members.  What is one activity or series of activities that could be fun for your whole family?  How could you unplug for a day and focus on each other?  What would everyone enjoy doing?   Creating memories together and fun builds trust.

What is one activity our family could add weekly into our routine that would be fun and reduce stress?

Laughing together can be one of the best stress relievers.  Could you find a funny movie night to add to your routine?  Or tell a joke night around your dinner table?  What about sharing a funny story for one meal a week?  Perhaps a game night would be fun.  Whatever you can add that is low stress, fun for everyone and consistent that everyone could look forward to doing and being together.  Searching Pinterest for outdoor games is a great source of ideas.

What are places we would like to go this summer that will help us learn or serve or celebrate our family?

Places to go could be a brainstorming activity with your family.  You could make it as simple or elaborate as you want.  Depending on the age and interests of your family and availability in your local, you could visit a variety of places.  Examples to include a local zoo, arboretum, park, museum, historical museum or home.  Or what about family history?  Are there places your ancestors used to live that you could visit and research? Or even interview living ancestors and hear their stories?

Start dreaming now for the summer fun to begin.  Gather your family and have everyone have their say about about what summer fun could look like. Don’t forget the extended family, too.  I can’t wait to hear about how your family connects this summer.  You’ll be so glad you set intentions now.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

 

A Joyful Life Vision

A Joyful Life Vision

How many of you have a joyful life vision in front of you today?  I believe with your vision in place, you can live a joyful life, regardless of your circumstances.   Is that the life you are currently living?  If not, what changes do you want to make?  You have choices in front of you.  You can write it down, visualize it and see it happen.

Do you believe that your life can be joyful?  Or purposeful? You are created to make a difference in this world. Living with expectancy moves you to action, which can produce joy and purpose.  Expectancy and belief are motivators to move you forward.

How do you get in touch with your beliefs and vision?  Take time to dream, pray,  make a vision board with me and a few friends, think about your goals.  Lou Holtz, the famous football coach, wrote down 107 goals he hoped to achieve.  He did this as an out of work 28-year-old, no money in the bank, with his wife pregnant with their third child. The goals were both personal and professional.  If you go to his website today, you’ll see pictures – like visiting the White House, and hitting 2 hole- in ones. He’s achieved 81 of those 107 goals.  Setting those goals down and recognizing his passions, moved him into action.

I believe that getting in touch with vision, passion and purpose, is the spiritual journey.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.Jeremiah 29:11.

By being aware of all the connections that God makes for me on a daily basis, I am open to His direction.  What some people call the “coincidences”, I call “God-incidences,” and love seeing His fingerprints all over my life.

So, today, check your focus. What are your intentions for the day?  Awareness of God, time with family, eating healthy, creating an inviting environment for women….?  Whatever those intentions are, how will you be open to receiving what you need today to carry them out?  What are you thinking about, moment to moment?  How is it contributing to your vision and well-being?

Remember, too, you don’t have to go on this journey alone for a joyful life vision.  Find a friend, contact me, talk to God.  The journey to your vision is worth the work.

Enjoy your day, relish your your joyful life vision and know that you can have a hope and future.  It’s a promise!

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

5 Ways Vision Helps You

5 Ways Vision Helps You

“A vision is a clear and compelling picture of something we want to have exist in the future.  It is a target we intend to reach.  It encourages people to think beyond what is and visualize what can be or will be. ”               Gary R.Collins, Christian Coaching. 

I believe having a vision for your life is one of the most essential keys to living a hopeful, healthy and whole life.  I have been surprised myself how much difference actually setting my intentions down and putting my vision into words and pictures has moved me forward faster.  It has helped me notice when I am on track and let me say yes to what fits in my vision and be more forceful at saying no.  I am healthier now than I have been in twenty years!

Creating a vision can set your intentions, bring clarity to your life and move life forward to that hopeful future you envision.  My intent in writing blogs for you is to provide encouragement, inspiration and tools for you to explore your vision. I want you to discover the importance of vision, and shed the stress and gunk in your life as you sift and sort idea, imagine possibilities and begin to dream and hope again.

Often during life’s transitions, such as empty nesting or retirement, it’s easy to lose sight of a hopeful future.  I had to have a coach to help me begin again to dream and envision what could be in my life.  She’s the one who asked me, “If you had a million dollars right now, could you start your dream?”  At that particular time, the answer was no, because my health was in shambles.  I was depressed, in chronic pain and knew that I had to get the inside Nancy to match the outside Nancy.  So my first vision became self-care, which is one reason you read content blogs on well-being.  Getting healthy and whole has been the basis for me being able to cast my vision.  Well-being is the catalyst for moving yourself forward.

The cool part of having and making a vision board is how it helps your brain make connections, much like an athlete in training makes connections.  They visualize themselves successfully winning their Olympic games as part of their training and this helps hard-wire their brains for their reaction times and the things they notice.

Paul writes in Philippians 3: 12 I’m not there yet, nor have I become perfect; but I am charging on to gain anything and everything the Anointed One, Jesus, has in store for me—and nothing will stand in my way because He has grabbed me and won’t let me go13 Brothers and sisters, as I said, I know I have not arrived; but there’s one thing I am doing: I’m leaving my old life behind, putting everything on the line for this mission. The Voice.

So as a possibilities life coach, I believe you can find your vision, set your intentions and move towards your hopeful future. Having a coach for accountability, asking questions and providing support makes that happen faster.

5 ways vision brings clarity* to your life include:

Passion

– With a clear vision come strong emotions.  Passion is the fuel that helps you get in touch with your vision.

Motivation

–  With clear intentions, you get motivated.  You move into action.

Direction

– Your vision becomes your decision-making tool.  You know what to say yes to and what to say no to and where to spend your time.

Purpose

– With vision, you see your “why” – the reason you get up each morning – the “big picture.”

Focus

– Vision helps you focus on the moment, knowing you are doing, what you need to be doing and enjoying in the here and now.

Any time is a good time to explore your vision, and it’s especially good during a change in your life. Vision boards are a way to pull these clarity points together with pictures and words into something you can look at on a regular basis. We can do vision boards together individually or in a group setting at retreats that occur quarterly if you’d like to enjoy the connections of a group.  Women have said they have been amazed at what they discover as they go through the process.  From my vision board in January, I have been more intentional in my relationships with my family, my backyard is becoming more landscaped, I am giving up sugar and I am working on my writing again- all intentions that were on my board

I can’t wait to hear about your vision and the tugs of your heart!  You can begin to dream again and listen to the whisperings of your heart.

*Thanks to Christine Kane for her excellent training Vision Board Pro and her ideas on what you discover from vision boards.  For additional information, The Complete Guide To Vision Boards: The Ultimate Starter Kit.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

 

3 Tips for Navigating Motherhood with Adult Daughters

3 Tips for Navigating Motherhood with Adult Daughters

“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.”―Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm

Motherhood is such a daily process, isn’t it?  I know I used to think that I would raise my children until they were 18, then I would have done my job.  No one told me as a young mother, that I had signed up for life, with all its ups and downs, joys and sorrows, twists and turns.  I am grateful for motherhood and the opportunity to keep doing it over and over again!

I find myself thinking about motherhood as Mother’s Day approaches.  It’s a bittersweet recognition for many.  A relationship is the way in which two or more people talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other. I think a mother-daughter relationship can be one of the most beautiful, tense, complicated, wonderful, frustrating and potentially sorrowful relationships there is.  I had that with my own mom and I have that with my daughter.

However, I have learned a lot about navigating motherhood with my own daughter, that I didn’t have with my own mom who’s been gone 10 years.  I didn’t have the honest, transparent relationship with my mom that I am developing with my daughter.

I believe a lot of that was cultural.  Mom was raised in a time period where you didn’t talk about your feelings.  She said once, “Dad said he got angry once and swore he’d never do it again.”  How’s that for bottling your feelings?  It also shows how negative feelings were never discussed in my home of origin and things were always “wonderful”.

I took that “wonderful” into my own parenting.  I wanted my children to be happy, think I was the best mom and I know now that I hovered when I could have challenged more. So how do I put motherhood into place now that my daughter is a 30-year-old wise woman?

In our adult relationships, since my daughter is now a mom, we have three things that are cementing our relationship more and more. I know there are women who want to be moms, who aren’t and women who still have their moms living.  These three tips can apply to your relationship with your own mom, instead of your daughter, or with your son, or even your best girlfriend!

Give advice only when asked

When she reads this, she will laugh, as she knows I am full of ideas.  This is an area that is a challenge for me.  I truly want what’s best for her as a mom, yet she wants and needs to navigate her life as the wise woman that she is.  My stance needs to be one of support, not fix-it.

Listen, listen, listen

She needs a sounding board. As women, we need a safe space to share our hearts.  This relates to number 1, in that even when I am listening, I don’t need to be giving advice, just listening and creating a safe space for sharing.

Put boundaries on when and where to be helpful

I love caring for my 2 ½  year old grandson.  He is a delight and a joy.  He is inquisitive, funny, and busy.  Because my daughter owns her own business, her hours are quite sporadic.  I also have my own coaching business so I can be flexible to a point.  We are working out when, where and how we can care for J and how often so that we are all happy.  When he comes, we all take naps!  The best thing about boundaries is that no one gets to feeling used or put out.

Motherhood – the best, hardest job in the world and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.  May Mother’s Day be a day of reflecting on who and how you can enjoy the relationships you have in your life.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

Embrace Change!

Embrace Change

Change, Embrace It!

Working, living with family, wherever you go, you’ll find change a constant companion. Remember the old adage, “The only certainty in life is that things will change?” How are you feeling about the changes going on in your life; from empty nest, to early retirement, to changing jobs, to even new grandchildren? How do we embrace change in a way that is healthy and hopeful, not despairing or fearful?

What is change?

Change has always been a part of our lives- as an infant, from crawling to toddling, then off on a run.  As we age, we are challenged to make changes in our health, our work, our thinking and our environment.  In our society, we operate within systems, “any structure that exhibits order and pattern”, such as family systems, work systems, and health systems.  Each day brings a challenge to embrace change or resist it, as we are called to change, sometimes at warp speed!

How do we embrace change?

Change can feel fearful or adventurous.  It might seem advantageous at first to resist change. However, we always have choices in how we approach change. It may not be an easy choice but one in which our health, well-being and future depend upon.

When resisting change, the brain goes into a “flight or fight” mode, which is an automatic response for our protection.  When we are feeling fearful or anxious, the brain reacts to protect itself and goes into an automatic mode.  We are not as free to think creatively and stress hormones are continually released into our physical systems to fight off or flee from what is making us resistant, fearful, anxious, angry or unhappy.  Over time, the stress can create poor health, such as heart disease, migraines, strokes, and obesity.  These symptoms lead to a shorten life span.

To embrace change and analyze our choices, we can use the following questions to meditate upon, process and focus on the changes facing us:

1) What is my part in the change that is occurring? 

If the change is happening around you or in your work place, write down your feelings about the changes and look at how your efforts can make a positive difference, regardless of the circumstances.

  • What losses will you experience from the change?
  • What will you gain?
  • What efforts will you need to put forth?
  • What will you learn?
  • What can be the outcome of this change?

2) What are the possibilities that the change can bring to my life?

Change can be an opportunity to think big, bold and dream.  We do have choices and writing down a plan of action will give you ways to make your own personal healthy changes, rather than feeling victimized.  Sometimes we need to be ready to try new things, regardless of how we feel.  The only failures occur when we don’t move forward.

  • Where will the changes take you in the next 3 months? 6 months? 1 year?
  • How can it fit into a new vision?
  • How do these changes fit into the purposes you have been called to serve?

3) What support structures do I need in my life to encourage my change efforts? 

Making changes are hard because the brain likes habits.  Find a friend, coach or group of people who will help you be accountable to the changes and dreams you want to make and can keep you positive and healthy.

  • Who do you have in your life that will listen to your dreams?
  • How can these support structures help you gain clarity and focus?

You can embrace change in any setting and live a more hopeful, healthy life, day by day.  Your joy and health depend upon it.  I would love to come along side you as you embrace changes in your life.  Contact me for a free success strategy session today.  Your journey can be positive, regardless of the overwhelm facing you.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

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