3 Ways to Focus On Your Summer Goals

3 Ways to Focus On Your Summer Goals

“Stay focused, go after your dreams and keep moving toward your goals.” LL Cool J 

How focused are you on your dreams in the summertime?  Are those goals clear in front of you or are you highly distracted by all the other things you hope to pack into the summer, “while the weather is nice.” You don’t have to make summertime an either/or time and put your dreams and goals on hold.  It can be a time of both enjoying the summer and making progress on your goals.  In this blog, I will share with you three ways I’ve found to stay focused and keep moving forward while still enjoying my summer.

I. You Know What’s Important to Focus Upon to Accomplish in Your Week

  • First, this focus is assuming you know your vision for the summer. If not, go back and read my summertime vision blog so you know what you hope to accomplish for the summer.  Then, at the start of each week, you do have to sit down and focus on the week ahead and pre-decide what’s important.  Pre-deciding is a concept I learned from Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory’s book, Overwhelmed.  By pre-deciding what is most important to accomplish in your week, you decide ahead of time, what you will do and can put it in your schedule first. It takes so much last minute decision-making off your shoulders.
  • Answer the question, “What one activity can I do that will move my goal forward the easiest?” then, schedule it in your calendar. If clarity is difficult for you, this may be where a vision board and my coaching could help guide you to help you discover the possibilities open to you and move you forward faster.

 

II. You Know Who’s Important In Your Week

  • In addition to what is important to put in you week, you need to decide who is important in your week. Who are the people you need to interact with this week?  Clients, friends, family, community members?  Get them on your calendar as well as to when you will work at connecting with them.
  • Schedule in self-care time for yourself as well.  You are one of the most important people in your week.  If “mama’s not happy, no one’s happy.”

III.You Know How You Want to Move Forward in Your Week

  • Now comes the tricky part. How will you accomplish the what and the how and keep your focus?
  • Will you look at your calendar each day?  Will you write yourself sticky notes?  What about reminders on your phone?
  • What will it take to keep you focused on what you have predecided?
  • Who else may need to be involved in completing the how of moving forward?

The Takeaway

In the summertime, especially, it is easy to get distracted by all the comings and goings of family and friends, extra activities to do outside and things you want to do to enjoy the season.  By being clear and predeciding on what’s important, who’s important and how you want to move forward you can stay focused.  You can still enjoy your summer, too.  Your calendar can be your best friend.  If you find this concept challenging, let me know.  I’d love to support you.  We can do a free session and I can share some resources with you.    I can’t wait to hear how you stay focused and move forward as well as have fun.  Email me, post on  Nancyboothcoaching Facebook or comment below.  Let’s encourage one another to stay focused, move forward and have fun.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

5 Tips for Balancing Your Summertime Vision

5 Tips for Balancing Your Summertime Vision

You have your essential questions; you have chosen your summer activities.  You have a summertime vision of what you would like this summer to be like.  All of a sudden, it is the end of June, and you feel like nothing has happened, or the opposite is true – too much has happened.  How do you go about balancing your summertime vision with the reality of day to day living?

1. Have clarity on what’s important to you this summer.

There’s an old saying, “If Mama’s not happy, no one’s happy.”  The gist is that you can set the tone of your family.  When self-care, contentment and clarity are priorities for you, you model that for the rest of your family.  Give yourself permission for time to reflect, to value yourself, your ideas and time for yourself as well as for your family.

2. Write out your ideal summer week that includes work, family, and self-care

Look at your week.  Begin to design three types of time blocks – work, family, self.  You want to put your big rocks – the things that most important in first.  Determine when and where your self-care times will occur, including your times of quiet and solitude.  By seeing what an ideal week could look like, you have a vision that can develop into a routine.

3. Gather your family together to discuss what’s working about the summer and what’s not.

Getting input now can tweak your summertime vision and open the lines of communication for everyone.  I know for our family what I have in my head and what they expect are often two different things.  Coming together to make plans and discuss what can happen realistically builds trust and bonding, instead of mistrust and the proverbial, “You didn’t tell me that!”

4. Program in rest and being fully present

It sounds funny to have to program in rest, yet I know for myself, I get caught up in do, do, do.  Summertime is the time to be, be, be.  Remember as children how long summer seemed to last?  Part of that remembrance has to do with the fact that children are fully present.  They are not worrying about the future, nor concerned about the past.  They are enjoying the present moment.  Being fully present is a great stress reducer.  How can you unplug, relax and rest in the beauty of summertime?  Can you sit along a lake?  Enjoy a path in the trees?  Sit and smell the flowers?  Read a book in a hammock?  Take a nap in the sun?  Whatever it is, choose times to rest, slow down and unplug from your cell phone and the world

5. Give yourself grace and enjoy gratitude

One of the best things about summer can be gathering with loved ones.  Getting together with friends and family bring about connections that build memories and gratitude for the people we have in our lives.  However, gatherings can be stressful if too much emphasis is put on preparations or how things look.

A friend of mine reminded me of this when I was worried about how my house looked. She said, “People are not coming to look at your house, they are coming to enjoy your company.”  Her encouragement gave me grace to open my home more often.  I make sure the house is presentable, but let go of the imperfections I see every day and warmly welcome women into my home.

 

I hope your summertime vision and being connected to why you want helps this summer be the best ever for you and your family.   Having a vision drives your passion, motivation, direction, focus and purpose.  I can’t wait to find out how your summer is different than other summers because you were clear on your vision for yourself and your family.  Let me know in the comments below or on NancyBoothCoaching Facebook page how vision is driving your summer.

May summer time be one of joy, contentment and renewal for you and your family!

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

Easy Celebrations for Summer Enjoyment

Easy Celebrations for Summer Enjoyment

How and when do you take time to celebrate in your family?  I know growing up we celebrated birthdays and family.  Mom took time for me to invite friends over for my birthday.  I have fond visual memories of friends around our dining room table, eating cake!  We also would gathered for family birthdays.  I remember gathering in March as my grandparents, myself and my cousin all had birthdays in March.  I still remember those yummy meals together- chicken and dumplings – yum!.  In summer, we would all gather for family reunions to celebrate being related to people I didn’t know, ha! Again the theme of food was popular. My grandpa would pile his plate so high he had to hold the top of it to keep food from falling off.

Funny how food is often associated with celebrations.  We eat at weddings, birthdays, and graduations.  There is something celebratory and connecting about eating good food together.  I think sights, sounds and smells of food easily bring back celebratory memories..

 

How do you celebrate?

What about you?  Do you take time to celebrate together?  Summer is a great time to celebrate together.  The word celebrate means two similar, yet different things:

  1. to honor (an occasion, such as a holiday) especially by solemn ceremonies or by refraining from ordinary business  to celebrate Memorial Day
  2. to mark (something, such as an anniversary) by festivities or other deviation from routine celebrated their 25th anniversary

Throughout the summer, we have the opportunity to do both.  Summer is usually kicked off by Memorial Day, an occasion to honor and remember our servicemen who lost their lives by serving their country.  We honor their service to this country.  This past Memorial Day, I saw lots of pictures posted on Facebook of different people’s relatives who had served.

 

Honor and celebrate family history

It reminded me of the opportunity during the summer to honor and celebrate our family histories.  How many of our children and grandchildren know of relatives who served in different ways for our country?  For example, I have both a grandfather (he was 64 and my grandmother 29 when they married) and a great grandfather who served in the Civil War.  My husband, Jim, is a veteran and my uncle Harvey served in WWII as well as my father-in-law, Chet who is still living.  Those are people to honor and celebrate.  What stories are in your family that you can honor and celebrate?  Family histories are ones to gather, celebrate and tell your children and grandchildren. Family Search.org is a great place to start for free genealogical research.  Watch out though, you might get the family history bug!!

 

Mark something special

In addition to honoring being a way to celebrate, marking something special with festivities is another way to celebrate.  Traditionally we think of births, birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, and graduations as things to celebrate and they certainly are things to mark with festivities.

What would happen though, if you began to look for other ways to celebrate your life?  What if each week there could be something you looked forward to celebrating?  What if in the summer you had a festival or other deviation from the routine and celebrated life?

 

Capture a celebratory joyful summer moment

I am suggesting that summer is the perfect time to enjoy a celebratory lifestyle and find joy in the present. Brain research shows that engaging in present moment practices brings calm and joy. Celebrations that engage you in the present moment are one way to practice that joy.  When you think of celebration, you may think of activity, yet celebration may be one of celebrating yourself with a day away doing exactly what you need to be joyful and healthy for yourself. What might that look like for you?

Other celebrations could include setting aside a day and calling it something – Cousin Day, Movie Day, Pajama Day, Beach Day, whatever you and your family decided was essential.  By giving it a name, making a plan and circling it on your calendar, you turn it into more of a celebration- something that deviates from the routine.

In my 23 Easy Celebrations for Summer checklist, you’ll find a variety of ways to celebrate and enjoy summer for the introverts –  people who like more solitary activities to the extroverts- people who thrive on larger crowds and busier activities.  I think you’ll find something for everyone in your family.  The checklist includes things like hiking, picnicking, having a backyard camp out, and interviewing your family members about what they remember of life as a child in the summer.

 

Once you have the list, you can sit down with your family and determine what and when you might like to celebrate summer. The list may even generate more ideas of your own.  Remember to celebrate is a time to mark festivities.  And what better time than summer to celebrate family time as festive?.

Hope you can get out and enjoy this summer.  I know you will build good social bonds, strong memories, and best of all fun, which is great for your brain and your family! Celebrate your summer and share on the Nancy Booth Coaching facebook page.  We can encourage a joyful summer for each other and share ideas.

 

 Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

Let Summer Fun Begin!

Let Summer Fun Begin!


Summers growing up on the farm seemed to last forever.  I remember my summer fun at catching fireflies in a jar, riding my bike to the creek, playing on the front porch with my dogs and feeling carefree.  Summer fun for my grandchildren look different in that they live in the city, have less unstructured time outside of childcare, and less time spent in the backyard because of Mom and Dad’s work schedule.

Summer calls to the child in each of us to savor the weather, the pace, the desires and vision of fun and lazy days.  Expectations can crash with reality, however without intentions, planning, and communications taking place so that relationship building and values take center stage for your summer experiences.

It’s June and now is the time to look at your summer calendar and visualize what memories you and your family will be smiling about when September rolls around.  Picture yourself in the middle of happy, smiling faces and connecting with your family.  You can be asking yourself the following three questions for determining what your summer fun could look like, sound like feel like.  Set your vision and intentions now!

If nothing else happens this summer, what is the most essential activity that our family can do that will connect us together?

Connecting family members through fun is one of the best ways to build trust among members.  What is one activity or series of activities that could be fun for your whole family?  How could you unplug for a day and focus on each other?  What would everyone enjoy doing?   Creating memories together and fun builds trust.

What is one activity our family could add weekly into our routine that would be fun and reduce stress?

Laughing together can be one of the best stress relievers.  Could you find a funny movie night to add to your routine?  Or tell a joke night around your dinner table?  What about sharing a funny story for one meal a week?  Perhaps a game night would be fun.  Whatever you can add that is low stress, fun for everyone and consistent that everyone could look forward to doing and being together.  Searching Pinterest for outdoor games is a great source of ideas.

What are places we would like to go this summer that will help us learn or serve or celebrate our family?

Places to go could be a brainstorming activity with your family.  You could make it as simple or elaborate as you want.  Depending on the age and interests of your family and availability in your local, you could visit a variety of places.  Examples to include a local zoo, arboretum, park, museum, historical museum or home.  Or what about family history?  Are there places your ancestors used to live that you could visit and research? Or even interview living ancestors and hear their stories?

Start dreaming now for the summer fun to begin.  Gather your family and have everyone have their say about about what summer fun could look like. Don’t forget the extended family, too.  I can’t wait to hear about how your family connects this summer.  You’ll be so glad you set intentions now.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

 

A Joyful Life Vision

A Joyful Life Vision

How many of you have a joyful life vision in front of you today?  I believe with your vision in place, you can live a joyful life, regardless of your circumstances.   Is that the life you are currently living?  If not, what changes do you want to make?  You have choices in front of you.  You can write it down, visualize it and see it happen.

Do you believe that your life can be joyful?  Or purposeful? You are created to make a difference in this world. Living with expectancy moves you to action, which can produce joy and purpose.  Expectancy and belief are motivators to move you forward.

How do you get in touch with your beliefs and vision?  Take time to dream, pray,  make a vision board with me and a few friends, think about your goals.  Lou Holtz, the famous football coach, wrote down 107 goals he hoped to achieve.  He did this as an out of work 28-year-old, no money in the bank, with his wife pregnant with their third child. The goals were both personal and professional.  If you go to his website today, you’ll see pictures – like visiting the White House, and hitting 2 hole- in ones. He’s achieved 81 of those 107 goals.  Setting those goals down and recognizing his passions, moved him into action.

I believe that getting in touch with vision, passion and purpose, is the spiritual journey.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.Jeremiah 29:11.

By being aware of all the connections that God makes for me on a daily basis, I am open to His direction.  What some people call the “coincidences”, I call “God-incidences,” and love seeing His fingerprints all over my life.

So, today, check your focus. What are your intentions for the day?  Awareness of God, time with family, eating healthy, creating an inviting environment for women….?  Whatever those intentions are, how will you be open to receiving what you need today to carry them out?  What are you thinking about, moment to moment?  How is it contributing to your vision and well-being?

Remember, too, you don’t have to go on this journey alone for a joyful life vision.  Find a friend, contact me, talk to God.  The journey to your vision is worth the work.

Enjoy your day, relish your your joyful life vision and know that you can have a hope and future.  It’s a promise!

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world..  She writes about taming the overwhelm. looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you to find that new vision!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm.  It’s time to explore possibilities of a new vision to include stronger relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

3 Tips for Navigating Motherhood with Adult Daughters

3 Tips for Navigating Motherhood with Adult Daughters

“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.”―Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm

Motherhood is such a daily process, isn’t it?  I know I used to think that I would raise my children until they were 18, then I would have done my job.  No one told me as a young mother, that I had signed up for life, with all its ups and downs, joys and sorrows, twists and turns.  I am grateful for motherhood and the opportunity to keep doing it over and over again!

I find myself thinking about motherhood as Mother’s Day approaches.  It’s a bittersweet recognition for many.  A relationship is the way in which two or more people talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other. I think a mother-daughter relationship can be one of the most beautiful, tense, complicated, wonderful, frustrating and potentially sorrowful relationships there is.  I had that with my own mom and I have that with my daughter.

However, I have learned a lot about navigating motherhood with my own daughter, that I didn’t have with my own mom who’s been gone 10 years.  I didn’t have the honest, transparent relationship with my mom that I am developing with my daughter.

I believe a lot of that was cultural.  Mom was raised in a time period where you didn’t talk about your feelings.  She said once, “Dad said he got angry once and swore he’d never do it again.”  How’s that for bottling your feelings?  It also shows how negative feelings were never discussed in my home of origin and things were always “wonderful”.

I took that “wonderful” into my own parenting.  I wanted my children to be happy, think I was the best mom and I know now that I hovered when I could have challenged more. So how do I put motherhood into place now that my daughter is a 30-year-old wise woman?

In our adult relationships, since my daughter is now a mom, we have three things that are cementing our relationship more and more. I know there are women who want to be moms, who aren’t and women who still have their moms living.  These three tips can apply to your relationship with your own mom, instead of your daughter, or with your son, or even your best girlfriend!

Give advice only when asked

When she reads this, she will laugh, as she knows I am full of ideas.  This is an area that is a challenge for me.  I truly want what’s best for her as a mom, yet she wants and needs to navigate her life as the wise woman that she is.  My stance needs to be one of support, not fix-it.

Listen, listen, listen

She needs a sounding board. As women, we need a safe space to share our hearts.  This relates to number 1, in that even when I am listening, I don’t need to be giving advice, just listening and creating a safe space for sharing.

Put boundaries on when and where to be helpful

I love caring for my 2 ½  year old grandson.  He is a delight and a joy.  He is inquisitive, funny, and busy.  Because my daughter owns her own business, her hours are quite sporadic.  I also have my own coaching business so I can be flexible to a point.  We are working out when, where and how we can care for J and how often so that we are all happy.  When he comes, we all take naps!  The best thing about boundaries is that no one gets to feeling used or put out.

Motherhood – the best, hardest job in the world and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.  May Mother’s Day be a day of reflecting on who and how you can enjoy the relationships you have in your life.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

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