Real Life Word of the Year Stories

Real Life Word of the Year Stories

In January, I wrote about the Word of the Year choosing me.  I wondered at the time how peace, the word that choose me would manifest itself in my life.  I am such an easily distractible woman, I could easily have forgotten what my word is by now. However, since my word chose me, it has seemed to stick around and come up in different ways.  I wondered if that was true in real life for others as well.

For me,  I realized I am feeling more peaceful and contented.  As I was going to church this past Sunday morning, the sun was rising and I was overwhelmed with the feelings of gratitude, peace and the realization of feeling healthy and whole.  Those emotions brought tears to my eyes.  Being fully present to notice God’s fingerprints in my life has has brought the feeling of peace on a more day to day basis.

I also recently returned from a quarterly retreat where I have been meeting with the same people over the past year and a half.  How encouraging for some to say to me, “You seem more peaceful.”  I am glad that the peace I am feeling on the inside is manifesting itself on the outside.

I know my marriage is showing it.  We are getting along so well right now.  He is more attentive, listening to me, and encouraging.  Think it has something to do with the way I am interacting with him?  Hmmm…..

I decided to gather some real life stories to see if they were noticing any differences in their lives, even in six weeks.  I have been encouraged by their stories.  It is so amazing to hear what happens when we get a vision and begin to get intentional about that vision.

For example, one coaching friend of mine told me her word chose her.  Her word is “purge”.  She said she certainly wouldn’t have chosen that word on her own. She wrote:

“The word I got (notice I don’t use the word chose) is Purge. I said I would take that word for January and then see what came next. Well, there’s still a ton of stuff to purge from my office, my basement, my house in general. I’m also finding that I need to purge some old thinking and old outdated perspectives. So, whether I like it or not, the word purge is here for a while. “

We laughed about God’s sense of humor and how He knows what we need and when we need it.

Another client of mine wanted a word of the year and was struggling to find it.  She toyed with the word, abundance, yet it didn’t seem to quite fit.  After a sermon at church one morning, it came to her – “light”.  –“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden.”  She wrote,

After much thought, prayer, and consideration, the word “lightAmanda's family 1came to me. In the past few weeks I’ve been shown and reminded so often of “light” now. It’s come to me in verse, in the form of actual “light” in the darkness, as awareness to something new, or as a bright, warm, positive moment, such as with my family. “

She has commented that even her colleagues at work are noticing her happier and lighter.

Finally, in a lunch conversation I was having with a fellow educator and mom, I asked her about her word, which was focus.  She said that word came to her as I was asking about the word of the year on a facebook post.  At first, she discounted that much had changed.  As we talked though, she realized that in the mornings, when out walking the dog, she focused on enjoying the present moment. She then came into the morning routine with her three boys in a much more focused state of mind.  She had to choosen not to project herself into the day ahead.

“Baby steps,” she said. “Their morning routine doesn’t change. I still have to remind them to get up. We still have to get out the door at a certain time. It is just how I approach them in my calm, focused state that changes.”

These are observations of four women after six weeks.  What will happen in six months?  I don’t know but I’m excited to find out how God will move and work.

It’s never too late to start your word.  Ask for what vision or intent is needed in your life.  Or allow me to come alongside you. We can start a conversation, first.  I would love to help you get intentional in discovering your vision, exploring possibilities and finding the hope for a better 2017.

 

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women, especially educators going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm through connecting to yourself and others, possibilities thinking, and brain-based strategies for hopeful living.  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm, explore possibilities and find hope.

5 Questions To Connect Your Passions and Dreams

5 Questions To Connect Your Passions and Dreams

With all the talk about vision at the beginning of a new year, passion often comes up in conversations as the fuel to move vision and dreams forward.  Passion is defined as a “strong and barely controllable emotion.”

Where are you on the passion scale?  Do you swing from high to low, day to day?  Or feel like you prod along, wondering where you’ll get your next inspiration? Or are you in a spot that is mainly meaningful and at an even keel?

Many of the women I work with express feeling disconnected from the life they want to live.  They are too “worried”, “fearful”, or “rudder-less” and are looking for connections to themselves, to God and to others for meaningful support and life different than the one they are living.  In coaching, they have decided to invest in themselves to figure out the disconnects and move forward in connecting the dots of their lives.

How do you go about kindling passion and connections to the important intentions of your life?  Take this 5 question reflective self-inventory to discover more about your passions, connections and what they tell you about where you stand right now.

 1. Who is God to you?

How do you spend time getting to know Him and He know you?  Note 3 ways you spend time with Him.

In reflecting about God and your relationship with Him, you begin to note the relationship of your spiritual side.  For me, my healing and passion grew exponentially as I started spending more and more time in God’s word and hearing God speak to my heart.  I personally spend time with Him by reading the Word, praying, journaling, and outside in nature as well as with my friends worshiping at church.  How do you spend time with Him.

 2. What brings you joy and happiness?

Give yourself permission to spend time with a variety of options. Consider 5 ways you can focus on joy and happiness for your soul

This is an area to imagine and visualize.  How often to you pause in the day and notice what is bringing you joy and happiness?  How are you celebrating the little things in life?  I tend to plow on to the next things.  Norman Vincent Peale writes in his book, The Power of Positive Thinking, “Anyone who desires it, who will sit, and who learns and applies the right formula may become a happy person.”   And Paul, in his letter to the Romans, remind us, “Be transformed by the renewing of our minds.” Romans 12:2   

3. What do you value?

How does what you do each day reflect those values? Make a list of 5 values.

This is a big area of intentional living and passion fueling.  If you value creativity, yet have no outlet for your creativity, then you may be feeling disconnected.  If you value growth, yet are working in the same position you’ve had for years, then you may be feeling stuck.  Look at your values to see how many you get to live out each day.

 

4. What breaks your heart and stirs you to action?

How does what you’re doing make a difference to those around you? 

Passion and dreams are fueled usually by big pictures and a call to action.  What is burning in your heart that you feel is an injustice?  Or that you are always worrying about?  For example, I know someone who is worried about her children moving into the teenage years.  She wanted to create a home where it was the place to hang out.  She realized her current home was not big enough for that to happen.  So over the past two years, she and her husband have been house hunting.  Finally, this week, they have found the house that is big enough to be that neighborhood hangout she envisions.  Her daughter is going into high school and her son will soon be in middle school and it’s in the same neighborhood where they currently live.  The stirring to action doesn’t necessarily take place overnight.  This worry stirred her to action and will continue to fuel her passion for her family.

5. Who in your life matters most?

How are you spending time with them?

Distractibility also rates high on keeping us from our passions and dreams.  On the one hand, I may say that God, my family and friends are most important to me, but I have to ask myself honestly, if my calendar reflects that passion.  I can get so distracted by work that days go by without taking the time to enjoy others and I am suppose to be retired!!!!!

I realize that getting intentional about a date time with my husband, scheduling time with my adult children and grandchildren and starting my day with God are vital to my wellbeing.  I also need to reach out to friends who love and care about me and not wait for them.  How I get supported and connected to others is my responsibility, even when it requires a lot of effort on my part.  For me, it is a matter of feeding my soul connected to these supportive relationships.

What did these five questions reveal to you?

Notice that time is one of those common threads to evaluating connections and passions.  Where you decide to spend your time, there your heart is, intentionally or not. How intentional are you being with your choices?  As Lysa Terkherst writes in her book, The Best Yes,

The decisions you make determine the schedule you keep.  The schedule you keep determines the life you live.  And how you live your life determines how you spend your soul

May you decide what fuels your passion and what next steps you want to take to intentionally connect with the life you want to live.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach, certified brain-based coach and spiritual guide.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover their God-given visions, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about connections with God, self and others, possibilities thinking, prayer and strategies for hopeful living.  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed worries, explore possibilities and find hope.

Vision – Throw Your Heart Out There

Vision – Throw Your Heart Out There

When was the last time you got intentional with a vision about what you wanted out of your life?  New Year’s Resolution?  After a transition? After something painful had occurred in your life?  Living with a vision is challenging for me, because I’m so easily distracted by ideas or family or even what is going on in the world.  I say yes to things I wish I hadn’t said yes to and wonder about why I say no to other things.  That’s why I’m so excited about creating space for myself and other women to explore the power of vision. It’s time to get intentional about what is possible in our lives.  How do you harness the power of a vision?

Create a visual representation of your vision

By taking the time to dream and get real about your vision, you can create a visual representation on what you believe would be best for you, your family, your work, your life.  By this belief and faith in God, you put in motion expectations of what could be possible.  It doesn’t mean you’ll get everything you desire.  However it puts your brain and heart on alert for possibilities.

Commit to praying over your vision

As you pray over this vision, God promises  

Your ears will hear sweet words behind you: “Go this way. There is your path; this is how you should go” whenever you must decide whether to turn to the right or the left.  Isaiah 30: 21.

I am so grateful to have that small voice whispering in my ear as I move forward.

Remember to share your vision slowly and wisely

Sometimes, vision takes a while to develop, like a tender shoot coming out of the ground.  Choose wisely how and when you will share your vision and with whom.  You want the support of community, yet you don’t want to have to defend your God-given vision.  Pray about who will be on your vision team and how and when to share it.  Waiting can be part of the development.

Keep visualizing the future you want

What does your vision look like, feel like, sound like?  This is based on brain science and used often in sports training.

According to scientific studies, when you visualize an action, you stimulate the same brain regions as when you actually perform that action.  What brain regions do you need to stimulate?

Visualization has also been shown to improve high jumpers clearing the bar!  That’s how we can put our hearts over the bar first.  Lead with your heart and brain.

Let your vision set your boundaries for daily living

As you get clear on your vision, you will then know what to say yes to in your days and weeks to come.  You gain clarity on how to live your life.  More importantly, vision lets you feel comfortable with what to say no to as well.  It frees you from guilt, overbooked calendars (almost) and frenzied living.

With these five steps in mind, you’ll begin to see your vision unfold.  Watch for where God is at work in your vision and join Him.  I would love to have you join us for our vision board workshop on January 21st.  Contact me at nancy@nancyboothcoaching.com for more information.  I still have a couple of spaces left.  Last day to register is January 17. However, I would also love to hear how your vision is unfolding and how you’re letting your heart lead.  Post in the comments below or on my Nancy Booth Coaching facebook page.  Let’s harness the power of vision together.

Author’s note: Check out the podcast at Professional Christian Coaching Today “Crafting a Vision Statement” for more great ideas.  Also check “The Complete Guide to Vision Boards.” Thanks to Christine Kane, Christopher McCluskey and Kim Avery for their ideas used in this article. 

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

 

9 Ways to Move Dreams Forward for 2017

9 Ways to Move Dreams Forward for 2017

 

I think lists can be helpful tools for moving dreams forward, especially as we move into 2017.   Open-ended questions can help, yet I think lists help the reflection process as well.  Hope this list below gets your dreams going and turning into reality for 2017.

  • Review 2016. 

What did you learn from it? Take your best lessons into 2017 and leave the rest behind.  Ask for the godly wisdom you need to sort between what was helpful and what needs to stay in 2016.

  • Believe  2017 can be different than 2016.

Ask yourself, “What mindset may be keeping me from moving forward in 2017?” Listen for the little voice inside of you.  “You can’t do that, it’s not perfect.”  “You don’t have time to make a change.”  “You don’t have enough money.”  Your brain actually likes to sabotage you into thinking you can’t.  Be like the Little Engine that Could.  “I think I can, I think I can” by recognizing the messages you are sending yourself.

  • Start dreaming with a vision board.

A vision board is your opportunity to listen to your heart.  You physically begin to pick pictures that reflect the desires and longings of your heart and mount them on a board to see daily. I do vision board workshops that lead you in the process.  Once you begin visualizing, your brain helps you see more opportunities, much like once you buy a particular type of car, you see that car on the road.

  • Set one goal in 3 areas of your life.

What are you feeling strongest about from your vision board or your pondering –work, physical self care, family and/or friends (social), spiritual or emotional? Which goals will help you feed your soul?  Choose three areas of your life that will help you feel most grounded.

  • Design a measurable, motivating action step for each goal.

What action will you actually put into place that moves you closer to you goal for the next 90 days?  What will help make it motivating?

  • Determine how you will measure those action steps.

How will you track your progress? Measure at the end of the month how you did. If you are having a challenge with an action step, take a look back to see what is interfering.  Is it a mindset issue?  Was it too much to do?  Celebrate the progress you did make.  Baby steps!

  • Attach your action step to a habit you are already doing.

For example, if you brush your teeth at night and want to add laying out your clothes in the evening because you would be less stressed in the morning, then do so when you brush your teeth.  At work, if you want to plan your ideal week, then attach it to your Monday morning planning before anything else occurs.  According to research by James Clear, by tying the new habit to something that is already occurring, you up the odds of the new action being accomplished.

  • Review at the end of 90 days.

See if the goals you wanted to achieve actually occurred. How did you do?  Did this move you closer to you dream for 2017?  If so, celebrate.  If not, then reflect on what you want to do differently for the next 90 days.  The helpful part of a 90 day cycle is there is a start to get you excited, time to accomplish something and a deadline at the end of 90 days to push you forward.

  • Reflect on this process.

What is working for you?  What is making a difference for your dream, desires and longings?  How are you feeling about your progress?

What obstacles are getting in your way?  Could time to create a vision board be helpful? If so, join the Discover Your Dreams Vision Board Workshop on January 21st.  If that date doesn’t work, yet you’re still interested, shoot Nancy an email to get on the next session list.  Or perhaps discussing your year with a coach to gain clarity could be helpful.  Clarity inside your own head is often hard to come by!   Or joining a small facilitated goal setting group might be encouraging?  If so, contact Nancy@nancyboothcoaching.com to see what resources can best fit your needs.  Make 2017 the best year yet!

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

 

 

 

What’s Your Word of Vision for 2017?

What’s Your Word of Vision for 2017?

For the last several years, I have chosen a word of the year.  I have thought about one word that would inspire, encourage and motivate to serve and love better.  A word that captures and focuses my vision!

This year, the end of the year seemed to sneak up on me. I hadn’t been pondering or thinking about it much until last week. Suddenly, I realized there are only two more weeks in this year!  I have been working on my business, in my business, around my business, under my business and above my business.  Whew!  I noticed how tired I was.  I gave myself permission to take off week before Christmas. I was determined not to think about my coaching business.  I felt like I had been gnawing it to death and it needed rest like I did.

Of course, God in His wisdom, knew I was the one who needed rest.  As I began pondering my word for the year, I wondered if rest was going to be my word.  I didn’t want it to be my word.  I have been dreaming about “Oh the Places You’ll Go” as Dr Seuss says and “Today is your day!’.   I wanted BIG dreams for encouraging, inspiring and supporting women to find hope in 2017.

What did I need?

I knew I needed rest, yet rest wasn’t quite the right vision fit.  The world’s news, like in Alepo, stirred my heart.  The national news stirred my heart.  My family’s news stirred my heart.  All of these things outside of me and outside of my control tended to induce fear, worry and anxiety. Those weren’t my words for the year!  What word vision did He have in mind?

Where did I find my nudge?

My devotional reading though, in John 16, caught my attention. Jesus was talking to His disciples in the Upper Room, just before His crucifixion. He said,

33 I have told you these things so that you will be whole and at peace. In this world, you will be plagued with times of trouble, but you need not fear; I have triumphed over this corrupt world order.

Whole and at peace.  Ahhh.  That’s my heart’s desire- peace.  That inner quality that only God can provide when my focus is on Him.  It comes when I take time in solitude. Or when I am quietly praying and listening for His voice. I experience peace when I give my worries to Him and ask Him for direction, even when being plagued with times of trouble.

Then for the sermon on Sunday, our pastor’s message noted the angels’ message to the shepherds- “Peace on earth, good will to men.”  That’s what the birth of Jesus brought.  He’s the Prince of Peace, according to Isaiah 9:6.  Not from the ceasing of wars and famines and family strife, but knowing that wherever I am, He is there, too.  He didn’t escape trouble, He overcame it.  Therefore, I can, too.

What am I looking forward to with the word that has chosen me?

I am looking forward to this coming year to see how God wants me to experience peace.  Peace in my soul.  Peace in my body, releasing the tension I hold in.  Peace through praying and giving Him my anxieties.  I will be asking Him to show me what is robbing me of peace.

Be on the lookout for what word God in store for you for the new year.  What word keeps popping up in your mind and heart?  What word will choose you for 2017?  I would love to hear about that special word and how God brought it to your attention.  Post in the comments below or on NancyBoothCoaching facebook page.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

 

Unwrap Your Gifts of Desires and Longings

Unwrap Your Gifts of Desires and Longings

As the Christmas season approaches, everywhere we look, we are enticed to want this new thing or that new invention.  “Don’t you desire this for your home?”  “Aren’t you longing for the newest _____(fill in the blank)?” “Unwrap this gift under your Christmas tree this year.  She will love you for it.”

As I think about my vision for 2017, I have been pondering my desires and longings. These desires and longings are gifts within my soul that I can either experience or share with others.  They aren’t about “things”.  They are about who I want to “be” and how I want to “do” or serve others in my work and family and finally what I want to “have” for the new year.  Everything starts with being first, rather than doing and having.

Want to Be

I think one of my strongest desires for the new year is to be still so I can hear the small, still voice of God.  When I sit still, I can hear and feel loved.  I also find peace and hope.

I also want to be fully present.  I don’t want to miss moments in my day.  In the past, my anxiety and depression clouded my thinking and now that I have my health back mostly, I want to be aware of the beauty, the relationships, and even the dailyness of my life and savor those moments.  I am one to rush on to the next thing.  I want to better pace my days by being fully present and enjoying my surroundings, my work and my family.

The third area I want to be is strongly connected to those around me, whether it be God, my husband and family, friends, church, neighborhood or the women I serve.  Connection is so important to me and grounds me to health and vitality.

What about you?  How do you want to be this next year?  What are the desires and longings of your soul?

Want to Do

grandkids-with-papaIn the “do” area of my life. I long to do service that makes a difference in the lives of people with whom I am involved. I want to write encouragement to others.  I want to create safe and beautiful spaces for women who want to make a change in their lives and find hope. I also want to make beautiful and loving places for my grandchildren to have fun with “grandma and papa” to help them feel special.

My want to do’s come out of my want to be’s connection desires.

How does your do and be fit together?  What are your desires and longings that you want to bring to life for 2017?

Want to Have

When I get my want to be and want to do in alignment for 2017, I believe my desires and longings for my “haves” will fall into place.  For my want to haves, I want to have gratitude and enjoy what I have currently.  I  want to have more gatherings and groups of women together – creating those safe spaces, and retreats. I want to enjoy those connections with others – online, in my neighborhood, my church and in the surrounding areas.

I want to have a beautiful backyard to enjoy.  I want to have a screened-in area in order to enjoy the beauty of the trees, flowers and nature as well as share it with others.  Getting outdoors is an important component of my health so creating a space where I have access to enjoy it will make a difference.  Again, that is in congruence with my be still desires, and my want to do longing to connect with God, others and creation.

How will your want to have support your be and do?

Gifts to Unwrap

Of course, I have other be, do, have desires and longings I could share.  These are just a few of the gifts in my life I hope to unwrap in 2017.  I hope it’s given you a glimpse of how you might make a gift list for 2017 for yourself.  Take time for yourself and listen to your heart.  I want to create safe spaces for you to explore the dreams and possibilities in your life and find hope. That’s my biggest desire for 2017.   Let’s unwrap your gifts for 2017 together.

Nancy Booth is a certified life coach and certified brain-based coach.  She loves creating safe spaces for women going through life’s transitions to discover and support their visions for health and well-being in an overwhelming world, explore possibilities for next steps and find hope.  She writes about taming the overwhelm and reducing stress, looking for ways to motivate, energize and inspire you!  You can sign up to receive her weekly blog or contact her to find out ways you can begin to shed overwhelm and stress.  It’s time to explore possibilities of new relationships, better life pacing and gain hope and peace.

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